Eric planted City of God Church in Lafayette, IN where he is the lead Pastor

Eric planted City of God Church in Lafayette, IN where he is the lead Pastor

Eric and I knew each other in Jr. High and we became friends early in High School. We went through youth group together, and though we went to different Bible Colleges and Seminaries, we helped each other endure those seasons from a distance with regular communication. For a short season we worked together at the church he planted before I moved to Portland. He and his wife, whose wedding I was blessed to be in, have been a huge blessing to me. I’m honored that they found a way to make it to Boise for my wedding. Here are 10 reasons why.

  1. Though I think he just did it for fun, he called me almost once a week while I was in Seminary and ended up helping me walk through some of the most daunting theological issues I have ever wrestled with.
  2. He and his wife Jessie were the first couple to help me overcome my fears about marriage by inviting me deep into their lives and showing me how the Gospel was at work there.
  3. He is the most extroverted introvert I know.
  4. He greased the tracks for me to attend the Resurgence Training Center, a watershed moment in my life that ultimately lead me to Portland among many other things.
  5. He is the only one who can get me excited about sports.
  6. He introduced me to Kentucky Bourbon Barrel Ale.
  7. In 2001, when the Arizona Diamondbacks beat the Yankees in the World Series, he ran with me through the streets of our hometown celebrating. We’re not Diamondback fans, we just don’t like the Yankees.
  8. He is a Semi Pro Wrestler…seriously. He is known to the wrestling world as Buck Boulder.
  9. In 2010 he moved his young family from a secure youth ministry position in the suburbs of Indianapolis and planted City of God Church next to Purdue University’s diverse campus where he has faithfully weathered all the storms of uncertainty that face a young church plant.
  10. He has three awesome kids, a great marriage, a healthy church, a pastor’s heart, a scholar’s mind, and is consistently someone I can measure my life against in a healthy way.
Last Sunday I got fitted for the suit I'm going to buy and wear at my wedding.

Last Sunday I got fitted for the suit I’m going to wear at my wedding.

This has been a wild year, but it is happily headed toward my wedding day. The plans are coming together, venues and food are all nailed down, invitations are going out soon and I’ll be spending the next couple of months securing housing for us here in Portland.

Since both us have friends and family spread out across the world, I wanted to give a general update. I also wanted to let my friends in Portland and in Kentucky know about receptions we’ll be having after the wedding since we are keeping the wedding small and having it in Boise, ID where Ashley is from.

The Wedding

The wedding itself will be at Kathryn Albertson Park in downtown Boise Idaho on June 21st of this year at 6:30pm, with a reception at 8:00pm in the Basque restaurant Bardenay which is also downtown. Pastor Ryan Mount will be presiding. My dad, Pastor Randy Nation, will be my best man, and my good friend, Pastor Eric Roseberry, will be my only other groomsman. My good friends Keith Doyle and Adam Coffman were also going to be in it, but living in Kentucky and Indiana and being Pastors makes the distance and duties hard to overcome. Ashley’s two lovely sisters will be her bridesmaids. We have only invited 150 people due to travel and venue restraints. Many in my own family won’t be able to attend. If these barriers were not upon us, we have no doubt that we could fill a stadium.

Portland Party

In July or August, we will be having a party in Portland, hosted by our community group from church, the same community group where Ashley and I got to know each other and started dating last year. This will be a more open event, like an open house. I’ll post a Facebook event once the details are nailed down.

Kentucky Reception

This December 29th, at my home church in Versailles, Kentucky, Woodford Community Christian Church, we will be having a reception in the afternoon. Ashley and I will be spending Christmas and New Years in Kentucky with my family and friends, and that will be the first time she will meet many of them. I’m still working out the details of this event, but between holidays with family, attending church and visiting with friends, I’ll have to be satisfied with the amount of catching up I can do with the time we have.

In the meantime…

As I have said, in the next couple of months, I’ll be focused on securing housing. We’re currently looking to live the neighborhood where our community group meets, which is also not too far from where I work. My boss and his wife were the ones who hosted our community group when I joined it last summer, and where I found myself very interested in everything Ashley had to say. I feel a bit attached to this part of town, a quirky and diverse neighborhood, including a Bible College, a ghetto, dive bars, foodie joints, and all the wonders of Portland living. Its called Montavilla. We’ll see.

Ashley will be finishing up her coursework for her Master of Arts in TESOL at Multnomah University, and I’ll continue in my work for GRAYBOX, where I’m doing marketing consulting and project management.

We’ll be doing premarital counseling at our church, most likely starting shortly before we’re married and finishing once we are married due to how the schedule worked out. We are extremely well supported, and I can’t think of a better situation for our relationship and early married years then we are having right now.

Thanks to all my friends and family, and I hope that at some point this year I’ll be able to say hello to everyone in person at least once.

Julienne cut onions, minced garlic, dried red chilis, cumin seeds, black mustard seeds and curry leaves.

Julienne cut onions, minced garlic, dried red chilies,  cumin seeds, black mustard seeds and curry leaves.

Having no formal culinary training of any kind, the early years of my curry making were overwhelmingly haphazard. I learned how to peel and chop onions and garlic quickly, get them to soften, and then starting adding as much Indian chili powder to the dish as possible while tossing bits of salt, curry powder (which I never use now), garam masala and whatever main ingredient I was using at the time, finishing with cilantro. I love spicy food, but at the time my goal was to make it so hot that nobody else would eat it and I could have it all to myself. That ended when an Indian friend of mine who was a nutritionist told me that I would develop an ulcer in a couple of years if I didn’t stop. I figured if I was out-spicing the Indians, I had gone too far.

Over the years I made a lot more Indian friends who taught me their methods and studied a bit independently. I eventually realized that texture was important to nuances in flavor, and that there are endless layers to any given flavor profile of a curry. This meant that even cutting the onions a certain way could have a profound effect on the dish. I eventually found some of my favorite practices based on trial and error. I’m still honing it in. Even today I’m going to be experimenting with a cauliflower, carrot and chicken korma finished with the seasoning fry I’m about to explain, with the addition of some pan fried cashews. I’ve never quite done it like this before, but I think I’m on to something. It’s a combo of some things I’ve stumbled upon while making a variety of other dishes. What I want to focus on for this post is the base ingredients and process I use for a seasoning fry that has become quite central to much of my cooking.

I’ve discussed the start, with mustard seeds and turmeric. Once the mustard seeds pop, I add cumin seeds, dried red chilies, curry leaves (when I can find them), garlic (cut differently based on the dish) and onions (mostly cut julienne style, but differently based on the dish as well.) Here is the key, are you ready? CARAMELIZE IT! Let me say it again, CARAMELIZE IT! Depending on the stove quality, this process usually involves the ingredients sitting on just over medium heat for half an hour, stirring frequently to prevent sticking and burning. It takes serious patience. It will start to burn, you just have to feel it to know when it’s enough, feel it in your soul, don’t go grabbing handfuls of burning onions or anything. What this does is add a sweet, smokey tangy flavor to your dish. You can start your dish this way, cooking everything in one pan, or cook this fry separately to be added on top of the main dish once it is done cooking. When you cook it separately and add it on top, the caramelized exterior on the fried ingredients don’t completely mix with the rest of the dish as it would if it was cooked in from the beginning, and they become little sweet, smokey flavor bombs that you stumble upon while you eat. The sweetness comes from the caramelization because you’re essentially drawing out the sugars and burning them a bit. The smokiness is from the fact that are charring it a little. It’s a deadly combo when you factor in the already powerful spice profile of the main dish you’re adding this to.

I’ve noticed that people without well developed palates tend to hate curry for this reason. Even without the extraordinary measures I’ve taken to exploit the layers of flavor in Indian food, there is already an intensity to Indian food that the traditional Western palate isn’t accustomed to, and the surprising affect of that can cause people to think that they don’t like it. It’s similar to when someone doesn’t like a new idea at first simply because they don’t understand it. Some people have a legitimate preference opposed to Indian food, and I respect that, but they can usually articulate why with at least a novice level culinary understanding. Without that, I know that it’s just new and different for them.

So that’s my caramelized awesomeness. Try it with just onions and garlic first, and then start adding other things. You can play around with the process a lot without messing anything up and it changes the flavor a bit each way you do it.